Happiness means different things at different points in our life. With roles and responsibilities we have to take, we tie our happiness to the satisfaction we get from fulfilling those roles. Happiness to me has many different meanings tied to it. Playing the piano makes me happy. Singing makes me happy. Listening to my favorite songs makes me happy. Running and exercising make me happy. Having a deep and meaningful conversation with someone makes me happy. Traveling makes me happy.

See? The list for things that make you happy can evolve and change overtime depending on the stage of your life, your interests, and your circumstances at that point in time. But have you ever come to a point when it all just makes sense? When you feel that, really, happiness is just a peace of mind?

We all say that happiness is a peace of mind. But how rarely do we come across moments and periods of our life where we have a peace of mind? I think it takes tremendous work in personal development and personal growth to the point we can happily say,

This is it. I am at a point in my life where I’m completely happy with who I am, where I’m at, and where I’m headed that I no longer think about the past nor do I worry about the future. All I pay attention to is the very moment in front of me. And that makes me feel happy.

I am actually on the plane right now flying back from one of my trips just to pack my bag and leave again the next day. One of my dreams is to be able to work and travel at the same time and I am doing this. What else do I want in life? Do I really want a big house and a nice car? What’s the purpose of my life and living? I was actually thinking about this the other day while working on my business.

Over the past few months I have been on the road and have come across so many different business ideas I’d love to implement one day. But is making money really the end game of it all? I thought about it and realized that with my strong passion and love for business, I never focus on getting rich and wealthy. I just love the game of business – period. I love being able to introduce interesting products, ideas, and concepts to the market, knowing that they make people’s lives better in one way or another. Because, really, what’s the point of being rich and wealthy? I don’t want a big house or a luxury car. Although it’d be nice to have a Porsche, I know it’s not going to bring me lasting happiness. Is the end game really to raise a family of my own? Maybe one day. And my goal in that is to raise a happy child – a child who is healthy, happy, and holds good values – a child that does good to the world – a child that helps others – a child that is not selfish – a child that follows his/her passion and innate talents because that’d make him/her happy and in flow – a child that has a peace of mind.

When I was young, my dad used to say to me,

It doesn’t actually matter how much you earn, what matters is how much you need.

That sentence never struck a chord with me until now. I don’t really need much in my life. I continuously improve myself, look at the positive side of things, bounce back from setbacks quickly, learn from failures, and do things that align with my values, passions, and interests. I don’t think I can ask for more in life than what I already have. And I think that’s the key.

When you feel the sense of happiness in yourself, when you have a peace of mind, you carry it with you wherever you go.

No matter where you go, you will learn to adapt, understand, and accept. When in doubt, you will communicate, learn, question, and sympathize. When challenged, you will get stronger, because that’s the only way that you can really test and improve yourself.

You might think that there’s a limit of how much you can achieve and how much you can be. But when you let yourself and your life flow naturally, doing everything intuitively and in sync with who you really are, things will just click.

Let me tell you this…

When you stop forcing yourself, forcing life, forcing people, forcing the society and let it just be, you will find a peace of mind. It may take a few years of self-exploration and trials and errors until you fully discover your true self. But you’ve got to start now.

Let go off everything that has been holding you back – emotionally, mentally, physically – and just be.You might say that it’s not as easy as I think it is. But trust me, it’s not that hard. All you need to do is to learn the art of letting go. Let go off all of your worries, off your need to control, off your fear of the unknown and uncertainty, and let go off your fear of failure and embarrassment. Just let go and let things be.

Wake up every morning and do what feels right. That’s when you’ll find a peace of mind. And you’ll realize that real happiness is deep – it lingers, it stays, and it gives you what you call “contentment”. It’s when your heart, soul, and mind feel full and whole.  

Mo Seetubtim

Mo Seetubtim

Founder of The Happiness Planner